Loving Your Spouse
Student Activity
The following questions require some thought and are personal. Your answers will be for "your eyes only". The purpose of this activity is to help you think about your relationship with your mate. Evaluate the strengths and weakness of your relationship and begin to work together to correct the areas where your needs or your mates needs are not being fully met.
1. Do you and your mate need to talk about affection? If so, what exactly do you need to share?
2. Do I spend time talking to my mate? Am I doing anything that hinders conversation? What can I do to improve the situation?
3. Identify activities you enjoy. Identify activities your mate enjoys. What activities do you both enjoy doing together? (Schedule time to do these activities together.)
4. On a scale of 1 to 10, how honest am I with my mate. In my personal hierarchy of needs, how essential is being able to trust my mate.
5. How does my physical appearance affect my spouse? Do I take my mate’s need for me to be attractive seriously?
6. If a need for domestic support has been identified, how do you plan to meet the need in a way that you can both enthusiastically agree?
7. How would I encourage my mate to spend time each week with "the family"?
8. Discuss the disadvantages of your criticism toward each other. How can you encourage each other to change, without being critical?